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Your Participation Is Needed for: No Shame November!

Friends! I’m excited to announce a new blog event that I’ve been planning since the summer.

It’s…No-Shame November!img_2140

What is No-Shame November?

No-Shame November is a blog event held here on The Hungry Caterpillar. The purpose of the event is for you to take a small, personal risk in order to stand up for what you believe in.

Have you ever thought: “I wish I were brave enough to…?” 

Now you have the opportunity to be brave enough.

Take makeup, for instance. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wearing makeup, and many women and men find it an awesome way to express themselves! But for some women, the idea of going out without makeup is scary. Some women fear that they will be seen as unprofessional, childish, sloppy, unattractive…

This is just an example. But let’s say that a woman who’s nervous to go out without makeup wanted to participate in No-Shame November by taking a small, personal risk in order to stand up for what she believes in (that women shouldn’t be seen as less professional or unattractive if they choose to go out without makeup.) She can take that risk however she sees fit: going without makeup for a day, going without makeup for a week, posting a single Instagram of herself without makeup, wearing a garish amount of makeup to make a point. Heck, she could write an editorial about makeup for the newspaper, as far as I’m concerned. It’s up to her.

Note that what risk you choose to take will vary depending on what’s important to you. I’m honestly more ashamed to go outside wearing makeup than without it (never learned to put the stuff on properly), so that wouldn’t be the most meaningful one for me. Take a risk that you think would be healthy for you.

Sounds cool! How do I participate?

After you take the small personal risk, write a short reflection (200-500 words) about your experience. It can be anonymous, or you can include your name and/or a link to your blog. (You don’t have to be a blogger to participate, btw.) Then, send it to with the subject line “No-Shame November” on or before Saturday, November 5. A few times during the month of November, I will post a compilation of these reflections to The Hungry Caterpillar.

If you choose, you may also send a photo or two you’d like to share.

Couldn’t this encourage someone to do something dangerous?

No-Shame November is about taking a small, personal risk to stand up for what you believe in. I’m encouraging you to go a little bit outside of your comfort zone.

It should not involve:

  • endangering yourself or others
  • disrespecting others
  • breaking the law
  • doing anything you’ll regret

The Hungry Caterpillar is not liable if you break the law or get yourself into trouble.

Rather, try something you think you’ll be glad you did in the long run.

Did you take the idea from No-Shave November?

Of course I did. 

You see, last winter, I stopped shaving for a few months. That was nothing out of the ordinary for me during cold weather when I’m in sleeves 24/7. But when March came around, I began to think, “I don’t like razor burn.”

That was honestly it. I just really don’t like razor burn.

And so I just kinda stopped. At first it felt kinda uncomfortable when I went out to swing dance and I’d lift my arm for a turn. But you know what? Women have hair. I still shower and wear deodorant and take care of my proper hygiene. It’s honestly just hair. :

Okay, so I could not shave or I could not wear makeup. Any other suggestions?

Sure, although I encourage you to be creative and interpret the “assignment” how you see fit. Here are just a few ideas:

  • Stand up to someone who’s being a bully (Even adults can be bullies sometimes.)
  • Wear a crop top
  • Order something delectable off the menu and ignore anyone who judges you
  • Participate in a protest
  • Tell your mom, dad, sister, brother, etc. that you love them
  • Go dancing
  • Try out for a sports team, choir, or play
  • Disagree with someone about something you think is important (Again, don’t do this if you know you’ll ruin a relationship or later regret it. Use your discretion.)
  • Wear a bikini
  • Participate in that 5K (even if you walk the whole way)
  • Go see your doctor about whatever you’re embarrassed to go see your doctor about (from dandruff to depression to diarrhea)
  • Say ‘no’ to someone who asks you to do something you don’t have time for
  • Be vocal about your food intolerances or allergies
  • Nurse in public
  • Go to your professor’s office hours
  • Ask out that gal/guy you’ve secretly and silently had a crush on for too long
  • Etc.
Is there a reward for participating?

I’m hoping that, if I’m able to do this again in future years, I may be able to provide some prize for, for instance, the most interesting, creative, or well-written reflections, or to a participant at random.

For now, though, I don’t have the funds or resources to do that, so the only reward is a smidgen of publicity from a very small-potatoes blog. I’m sorry!

I hope, though, that you find it personally rewarding.dscn0634-2


Linking up with Thinking Out Loud Thursday to help spread the word.

Looking forward to seeing the challenges you take!


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  1. Great idea! I’ll have to do some brainstorming on a good topic for me. Thanks for putting this together!

    1. Joyce says:

      I’d love to have you participate! I think it will be a lot of fun.

  2. Diane Wahto says:

    I love the idea, but I’ve already gone beyond being ashamed for standing up for what I believe in. I hope other people have the courage to do the same.

  3. Cora says:

    Joyce! This is awesome! Good for you! I’m going to have to wait for that moment of mine to just come to me… and in that moment I hope I’ll remember this pledge and make the choice that says “no shame!”

    1. Joyce says:

      A spontaneous decision is also totally legitimate.

  4. Evangeline says:

    This is such a super idea. I would love to participate!

    1. Joyce says:

      Looking forward to it!

  5. This is super awesome, I am really trying to rack my brain for what I could do!! I’ve entered the deadline in my calendar so I can be sure not to forget! Now if I can just think of something haha

    1. Joyce says:

      I’d love to have you participate, Stephanie! 🙂

  6. Hey, I love this idea! I’m going to have to come up with something. 🙂

    1. Joyce says:

      Thanks, Claire! I know you’re already a very courageous person. 🙂

  7. Alyssa says:

    This is an awesome idea! need to remember to do this by the 5th. Thanks for this Joyce!

    1. Joyce says:

      I’d love to hear from you, Alyssa!

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